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MOTIVATION MONDAYS: [VIDEO] ‘Beat Average’ Commercial by GNC

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Very rarely will I see something on television that will inspire me. With 99% of the content on cable being mindless entertainment or “educational” programming stuffed with advertisements, I can count on one hand how many times I’ve been motivated by something on my tv. This commercial by GNC is one of those things. First aired during the NFL Draft, the “Beat Average” commercial is 60 seconds of real life statements made by folks that duck and dodge their destiny by making excuses. Our society has become accustomed to rationalizing their shortcomings and accepting mediocrity, but this commercial challenges us to be better than the norm. Check it out, and hit the gym later.

 

[VIDEO] #bern200 – MOTIVATION MONDAYS: ‘Welcome To The Grind’

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Every Monday we tend to wake up discouraged at the events in place for the week. For most, Mondays are the beginning of 5 days of torture through employment, school, or other routines. We’ve decided to make a habit of sending out positive vibes via videos each and every Monday to kick the week off right. Check out this Nike video we found on YouTube entitled “Welcome To The Grind.” Watch it two or three times, and let us know what you think! 
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#bern200 – Six Tips To Help You Reach Your Goals

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They say a goal without a timeline is just a dream. It has become more popular to talk about the things you want to achieve than to actually put plans into motion. However, talking doesn’t get you anywhere in life and plans turn into regrets of missed opportunities and wasted time. I’ve put together six tips that will help you achieve your goals and taste the success you desire.
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#bern200: ‘Death To All Dreamkillers!’ / ‘Friend or Foe?’

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I wrote on Facebook that I wanted to compete in a marathon next year. Here was an interesting response I received:

‘Lmao that’s for the ultra super Olympic runners. It’s to qualify so it’s super competitive. I’m not saying (DJ BERN) couldn’t have done it, but LOL I seriously don’t think he could compete with the Kenyans. Who can finish in 2 or less hours and entire marathon. Plus you really need to train for it. How about a half to see if you even like running?’

There are a few interesting assumptions that I can pick out from this comment. The first is that I have NEVER ran in my life, since I need to ‘see’ if I like running. The second is that I shouldn’t plan on winning, since I am not Kenyan there’s just no way I would be able to compete. However, this single person and their narrow opinion on my marathon dream isn’t the point of this post. Before I started my weight loss journey, I expressed to others that I wanted to lose 130 pounds in seven months. I received a lot of positive, uplifting responses to my goal, but I was surprised by certain friends, family, and strangers when I was told that my goal was set “too high” and I needed to “pace myself.” Why are some people quick to discourage the goals of others? How can a person that doesn’t know you tell you that you’re aiming too high? How many of your family and “friends” support you verbally while they secretly want to you fail?

The way the majority of people in society that just take what life offers them is sad. A lot of people do just enough to get by. They fear failure and insecurity so they never take the risks necessary to get the things they want out of life. As we all know, misery loves company, so you’ll notice when you share your dreams and ambitions with people like this, their responses are usually aimed to bring you back down to earth. These people envy your aggressive approach, dedication, and bravery. They see your future success as a threat, as it would make them feel worse about the lack of achievement in their personal lives. The ‘crabs in a barrel’ mentality is a reality in the human race.

Then you have those folks that want you to do good, but not better than them. These people come forward with unsolicited advice about your goals. They like to talk about their personal experience with the subject, and tell you what didn’t work for them to warn you that it for sure won’t work for you as well. Advice from them often sounds like “You’re buying a house for how much? You can’t get it that cheap; I already tried. You’ll probably have to pay x amount like I did.” It is okay in their eyes for you to make strides and be happy, as long as you don’t pass them and make them feel inferior. For some reason, they want to be your ‘guide’ so they can feel responsible for your success, and in turn, make that success their own. They’ll hit you with a comment like “I don’t know why you want to be CEO. I chose to be a floor manager because it works for me. You should just go for that.”

Finally, the people most detrimental to your success are those friends and family that encourage you, but want to see you fail. They don’t want you to succeed, but in the rare case that you do they don’t want to be left out of the parade. They’ll tell you to your face that they hope the best for you, while telling others how foolish you are and how fast you’ll fail. It’s hard to spot these folks, but you can see who is present at all of your victory parties and absent during your struggles.

I’ve encountered all of these people an overwhelming number of times since March. These people have told me that I was losing weight too fast, that my goal was set too high, that i wouldn’t be able to do it without (random supplement) because that’s how they did it, how a friend of their cousins’ aunts’ nieces’ neighbor did the same process and failed, and a number of other counterproductive comments that would have broken a weaker man. However, I remained focused and kept my eyes on the prize with these simple steps:

1. Stay Self-Motivated. Friends and family giving you authentic encouragement is good, but how can you tell who’s real from who’s fake? More importantly, what if there are more people being negative than being uplifting, or what happens when the positive people aren’t around when you’re feeling weak? My main motivation has and will always be me pushing myself towards the goal, understanding that I am the master of my destiny and I won’t let myself down. I hold myself accountable for my actions and I will reap the benefits of being dedicated over time.

2. Stay Informed. Most unsolicited advice is from “know-it-alls” or dream killers that base their facts around simple Google searches and/or blog posts and have no real advice worth sharing. Read a book, talk to those people who have tried, failed AND succeeded and map out your own plan. Proper planning prevents piss poor performance.

3. Stay Humble. Dream killers are ignited by others’ success, so it’s best to not celebrate until you reach the end zone. Let your success speak for itself, and celebrate your small victories with those that you are SURE have your best interests in mind. The haters can’t stop you when you’re at the finish line. When you cross that line, spend that time thanking those that truly helped you get there, instead of acknowledging those that wanted to hold you back.

At the end of the day, you lay down and sleep in your own skin, so as long as you’re content with the decision you’ve made and the actions that accompany them, you should never feel discouraged. Progress is a process, and slow motion is better than no motion. Months or years later, when you’re where you want to be in life, those dream killers will still be unsatisfied with themselves because they spent so much time focused on bringing others down, that they never took the time to better themselves. Don’t let your dreams die.

#bern200 – The ‘We’ In ‘Weight Loss’ by @KoreanGold

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“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much “ Helen Keller

I made a bet 7 months ago. It was a weight loss bet; a challenge to see who could lose the most percentage of body fat. I’ve gained and lost weight before, so I figured it was going to be an easy win! The prize for the winner was a plane ticket to see the other person. Lose the weight and get to see the man I’m interested in at HIS expense? This was going to be an easy win.

Fast-forward 7 months; he’s lost 130 pounds, I’ve gained 10. In that 7 months I acquired a trainer, modified my eating, stopped going to the trainer, and started eating WHATEVER I wanted again. I had the desire to lose weight. I also had the knowledge; eat less, work out more, eat healthy. But I could not exercise the control or discipline to maintain consistency. Food was/is my drug and that, coupled with my unhealthy relationship with exercise, meant I was headed on a road to extreme unhealthiness.

Week 1 October 14-20: one of the HARDEST weeks of my life!

As a single mother working a mid career professional in an understaffed non-profit organization, to say I am busy is an understatement. Looking at my schedule, I decided that the BEST time to work out at 4:30am before work. I’m not even a morning person at 5:45am to get to work by 7:30am, so this 4am alarm clock was NOT going to be my friend. However, achievement takes sacrifice, so good-bye sleep.

The workouts weren’t so bad. The “diet” was pretty easy.

But the way my body was responding to the combo was MURDER. I was dog-tired every day of that week. I wanted to quit EVERYDAY, but I didn’t because I wasn’t in this fight by myself. I had someone struggling with me everyday, someone encouraging me everyday, someone who was eating the SAME thing I was eating everyday and that partner made those workouts, wake ups, and meals easier to endure.

This brings me to my point. The decision to lose 1 pound is hard, the decision to lose almost 100 seems impossible and it can only be done 1 pound at a time. No human being is an island, sometimes you need help, and with a massive goal you need some serious help.

I am fortunate enough to have a team to help me. I am fortunate to have a man who holds it down with me at work, a close friend who plans activities that do NOT revolve around food, and close friend at work that stashes healthy snacks for me in her office.

When making this hard lifestyle change, supportive people around is THE most positive thing you can do for yourself. The value of a team to keep you encouraged, share healthy recipes with, and to relearn how to have fun without food is immeasurable.

So many people will tell you that you CAN’T do it. You CAN do it. Find those folks in your life that believe in you and your ability to do whatever you can put your mind to. This not only applies to weight loss but in ANYTHING that you desire to do. The ‘we’ in ‘weight loss’ means more than you think.

#bern200 – Week 35: 135.6 Pounds Gone, 64.4 To Go

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“We travel, some of us forever, to seek other states, other lives, other souls.”
― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 7: 1966-1974

Nothing that is worth having is easy. Anything in life worth doing is going to be hard, and the reward will always outweigh the struggle. This is why so many people would rather take the easy way out and settle for what’s given to them than to fight for what they want. I don’t fault anyone who thinks like this, because it is an idea that is perpetuated throughout society. Every desire that individuals have for wealth, health, love etc. is accompanied with the want of obtaining these goals through the shortest path possible. However there is no quick fix to obesity. I knew it would be a long journey and I have been as relentless and persistent as possible.

Over the past 35 weeks I’ve managed to get into the habit of eating breakfast lunch and dinner at set times by preparing my meals and snacks ahead of time. I’ve fought temptation by reminding myself that any actions against my routine would only be a setback. I’ve had my fair share of cheat meals / days off from the gym. I take small breaks knowing that I’m not quitting; I’m only delaying my dreams. I also work twice as hard after my breaks from the gym to make up for lost time. However I never lose focus on where I want to be in life.

When speaking to others about my journey, I often compare it to climbing a mountain. By climbing and moving forward, I get closer to my goal each day. Stopping to take a break just delays the outcome, and going backwards by cheating on my diet just puts the goal further away. I am the only person on my mountain, meaning that reaching my goal isn’t a race to see who can get there the fastest. I am the only person that lives my life, and I have to constantly focus myself on where I am in the moment and where I want to be in the future. We control our own destiny, and where we want to be in life can only be managed by the effort we put in daily.

It is this kind of mindset that defines the #bern200 journey. Whether it’s weight loss, education, finance, or relationships, we can not compare ourselves and our goals to where others are with their own goals. We walk our own path; climb our own mountain. To quit now would be the same as wasting the past 7 months of my life, and when you get to my age you have to make each day count lol. So whatever you’re pursuing in life, do it wholeheartedly with the intentions of getting there sooner rather than later. Life is a marathon; pace yourself, but keep going!

#bern200 – Fit By Force: The Journey Begins For Kimberly

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The objective of the #bern200 movement is motivation for people who want to achieve their goals. Weight loss is something that a lot of individuals struggle with, and if I can motivate at least one person to get where they want to be, I would be satisfied. Kimberly has stepped up to the plate. Kimberly has agreed to share her story of struggle with weight, and put it out there for the world to see. Read what she has to say below!

I’ve hated exercise since the first time I was beat for not exercising properly. Yes, you read that correctly. I was beat, NOT to be confused with disciplined, for stopping during a run. I was seven years old. I had THAT parent that was a fitness fanatic and wanted to instill it in me. Good intent. Poor implementation.
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I’ve loved food for as long as I can remember. I grew up in a house full of love food. I had the privilege of having my grandmother and great grandmother growing up and they loved to cook and I loved to eat. The love food was abundant. Like all horribly written movies, what happens next is expected. I gained weight; a LOT of weight. I lost it with all sorts of fads: starvation, coffee diets, vegetable soup diet, Master Cleanse, pills, fat camp, and fat shots. The pills were by far my favorite! HELLO ephedra!
But when the pills and fad diets went away and I needed love food because I wasn’t ready to deal with the real demons inside of me, 150 pounds became this ugly number. 238. 238. 238. TWO EFFING THIRTY EIGHT.
I haven’t revealed my weight to ANYONE since I left the 170s. I’m both embarrassed and empowered by revealing it. I feel like this huge weight (no pun intended) is lifted off my shoulders. No lies to me, no lies to family, and no lies to friends. Just truth. 238 pounds of truth.
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In the past, I exercised and monitored my eating because of fear. The pain of getting beat for stopping in a run or getting ridiculed for the number on the scale was far greater than the pain of a run. Survival made me fit.
Today I will choose to do it out of love. Love for a man that has shown me every day for the last 6 months that it can be done with no tricks or shortcuts. Love for myself so I can live for me. Love for my child so I can be around as long as possible. And love for a “we”, for the common goal of having a healthy and fit family. Love food is not life. Food can give you life but food is not life. Life is love for yourself and others.
I begin this journey a bit embarrassed, a bit overwhelmed but entirely motivated. This journey is more than conquering the number on the scale it’s about finally facing those inner demons and loving my life: past, present, and future.

I want to congratulate Kimberly for making the decision to change for the better. Kimberly will be checking in periodically with progress, as well as recipie posts for those that need a few meal ideas.